Without fastcgi

[Daff]

ok, me again I think its an Apache Problem but I don't know what to change.
Here the difference.
Snippet of ps -aux from the VPS I'm struggling with:

root 27846 0.0 0.3 64400 3168 ? Ss 11:53 0:00 /usr/sbin/apache2 -k start
www-data 27848 0.0 0.2 64132 2360 ? S 11:53 0:00 /usr/sbin/apache2 -k start
www-data 27849 0.0 0.2 64132 2132 ? S 11:53 0:00 /usr/sbin/fcgi-pm -k start
vu2000 27850 0.0 0.4 53740 4832 ? Ss 11:53 0:00 /usr/bin/php4-cgi
www-data 27852 0.0 0.2 286768 3116 ? Sl 11:53 0:00 /usr/sbin/apache2 -k start
www-data 27854 0.0 0.2 286768 3120 ? Sl 11:53 0:00 /usr/sbin/apache2 -k start
vu2000 27890 0.0 0.1 53740 1900 ? S 11:53 0:00 /usr/bin/php4-cgi
vu2000 27891 0.0 0.1 53740 1900 ? S 11:53 0:00 /usr/bin/php4-cgi

That are 260 Megabyte RAM for an APACHE process (a simple script gives an Average of 149.0 MB per Apache process / thread)?!
Here the usage before starting the HTTPD (which still can be lowered by stopping Bind etc.):
188.496 MB
After starting:
634.727 MB
Thats a lot I'd say

On my current system:

www-data 32607 0.0 0.1 22868 10628 ? S 13:39 0:00 /usr/sbin/apache2 -k start -DSSL
www-data 32612 0.0 0.1 23148 10960 ? S 13:39 0:00 /usr/sbin/apache2 -k start -DSSL
www-data 32614 0.3 0.1 23032 11000 ? S 13:39 0:03 /usr/sbin/apache2 -k start -DSSL
www-data 32725 0.3 0.1 23180 10848 ? S 13:39 0:03 /usr/sbin/apache2 -k start -DSSL

Seems to be about 20 Megs. (the script displays an average of 7 MB per Apache Process / Thread). Very strange. 10 times as much RAM usage?