Update, thanks for the /etc remark about the config, found a solution for that too!
wget
http://policyd-weight.org/policyd-weight.conf.sample
Then cp policyd-weight.conf.sample /etc/policyd-weight.conf
Editted the Reject line from score 1 to 3 and my problem is solved!!
Thanks a lot guys for the indirect help, as it did solve my last and final problem too.
Still find it silly that Debian doesn't put the config in /etc at all, only a manual that holds so many keys that it's hard to make out what to do.
However, it would be nice if people could make white-black lists via their mailbox config just as Confixx can, maybe a hint for the future?